Find your lost love - Do you spend all your time running around your toddler or changing diapers? Do you feel that taking care of your bundle of joy is taking a toll on you and killing the passion in your once perfect marriage? Then it's time you pull your socks and do something about it before your marriage becomes monotonous and boring and your spouse becomes just a room-mate. Follow these tips to rekindle the lost love and bring passion back in your marriage.
Appearance:
There was once a time when you made efforts to look your best. It's time you start doing it again. That would make your spouse take notice of you and also make believe that you are still making the effort to look beautiful and smart, just for them.
Send the message across:
Do things that would remind you of each other. Send a little text message or an email to your partner. If your partner is stationed out of the city, send them cards and letters. "We often send letters and cards to each other when one of us is out of town. These little things make our love grow strong," says TV star Tanaaz Irani. Communicate with each other often and update your partner about your life.
Compliment each other:
Tell your husband about what a great father he and remind him that he is still your knight in shining armour. Similiarly, men must compliment their wives on their looks, cooking skill etc. Thank her for giving you the precious gift of your baby and tell her that you feel lucky to have a wife who take cares of everything in the house.
Dating:
Yes, dating is not only for those who are courting or the newly weds. It's as effective for new parents. You require that 'us' time. You can ask someone you trust to take care of your child and plan an evening out with dinner and a long drive. "We are lucky that we have our parents or in-laws living with us who can take care of the baby. So, whenever Varun and I go out, we don't have the 'I hope the baby is fine' worry running at the back of our mind," says singer Rajeshwari Sachdev. If you don't have help you can always plan a dinner for two at home, snuggle on the couch or bed and watch a movie together after once the child is sleep.
Romantic gestures:
Remember the time when you used to bring a bunch of flowers for your wife? Do it again. Put love notes in each others purses. Serve your wife breakfast in bed, or give each other body massages. Remember, it's the gesture that counts.
Togetherness:
"Start doing things together, even if it's just having a cup of coffee or tea together," says Rajeshwari. "We go to gym together. We also take holidays while our child stays back with the grandparents," says Tanaaz.
Seduction:
Where there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Remember sex is a very important part of your relationship. If that's missing, your partner may start looking for it outside the relationship. Go the extra mile in the bedroom - wear that sexy lingerie, bring in the whipped cream and chocolate sauce, basically do what it takes. "Hormone levels can fluctuate post pregnancy and breastfeeding results in a loss of libido. It's essential for the parents to regenerate and revive their sexual passion. Sex is powerful in creating intimacy which is the central factor in any romantic relationship," says psychologist Rachna Kothari.
"It should always be couple first and then the child. Only when the parents are happy can the child be happy," says Tanaaz. Rajeshwari adds, "Don't crib that it's exhausting and frustrating just go with the flow. After all, your child is your real labour of love." ( indiatimes.com )
Appearance:
There was once a time when you made efforts to look your best. It's time you start doing it again. That would make your spouse take notice of you and also make believe that you are still making the effort to look beautiful and smart, just for them.
Send the message across:
Do things that would remind you of each other. Send a little text message or an email to your partner. If your partner is stationed out of the city, send them cards and letters. "We often send letters and cards to each other when one of us is out of town. These little things make our love grow strong," says TV star Tanaaz Irani. Communicate with each other often and update your partner about your life.
Compliment each other:
Tell your husband about what a great father he and remind him that he is still your knight in shining armour. Similiarly, men must compliment their wives on their looks, cooking skill etc. Thank her for giving you the precious gift of your baby and tell her that you feel lucky to have a wife who take cares of everything in the house.
Dating:
Yes, dating is not only for those who are courting or the newly weds. It's as effective for new parents. You require that 'us' time. You can ask someone you trust to take care of your child and plan an evening out with dinner and a long drive. "We are lucky that we have our parents or in-laws living with us who can take care of the baby. So, whenever Varun and I go out, we don't have the 'I hope the baby is fine' worry running at the back of our mind," says singer Rajeshwari Sachdev. If you don't have help you can always plan a dinner for two at home, snuggle on the couch or bed and watch a movie together after once the child is sleep.
Romantic gestures:
Remember the time when you used to bring a bunch of flowers for your wife? Do it again. Put love notes in each others purses. Serve your wife breakfast in bed, or give each other body massages. Remember, it's the gesture that counts.
Togetherness:
"Start doing things together, even if it's just having a cup of coffee or tea together," says Rajeshwari. "We go to gym together. We also take holidays while our child stays back with the grandparents," says Tanaaz.
Seduction:
Where there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage. Remember sex is a very important part of your relationship. If that's missing, your partner may start looking for it outside the relationship. Go the extra mile in the bedroom - wear that sexy lingerie, bring in the whipped cream and chocolate sauce, basically do what it takes. "Hormone levels can fluctuate post pregnancy and breastfeeding results in a loss of libido. It's essential for the parents to regenerate and revive their sexual passion. Sex is powerful in creating intimacy which is the central factor in any romantic relationship," says psychologist Rachna Kothari.
"It should always be couple first and then the child. Only when the parents are happy can the child be happy," says Tanaaz. Rajeshwari adds, "Don't crib that it's exhausting and frustrating just go with the flow. After all, your child is your real labour of love." ( indiatimes.com )
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