Being single and childless in your 40s might sound like bliss to some people. You can do whatever you like, be selfish about when you want to go out, or eat, and see your friends and family as little, or as often as you please.
However, that's not everyone - what can the others do to find love and be happy? We suggest following these eight simple rules.
Try something new: couples take part in a joint blind-date event Photo: REUTERS
Look ahead People may consider being 40-plus is a challenge for new daters, even with the new options available like speed dating and online dating. But look at the positives: it's a fresh start, a chance - hopefully - to meet someone right for you.
Use all options Don’t just sit around waiting for someone to ask you out; be proactive. Start meeting friends of friends who are single, opt for a blind date, try speed dating, local single nights, or online dating.
Carpe diem Make sure that whatever action you take it’s because you want to do it. Before you set out think about what you really want. Could you date someone older, younger, or with children? Someone who is divorced or widowed? Set a checklist and stick to it. Listening to friend’s advice may confuse you but if you choose to ‘seize the day’ and make 2010 your year of dating then that’s what you should go ahead and do.
Make initial contact If you've found someone you're interested in, don’t be afraid to email or call them first. Making the first move can not only boost your confidence, but also show that you are interested.
Be positive No-one wants a miserable date. Even if you're shy, try to come out of your shell; make conversation, smile. Try to stay focused on what activities, hobbies and so on make you happy (but remember, it is a two-way conversation, so don’t go on about yourself too much).
Chivalry is key Be polite and take time to listen. Actually hearing, and taking in, what others are saying instead of slanting your head slightly and staring into space makes for easier conversations.
You don’t have to act your age You might be over 70 but you still feel like you’re 35. You don't have to conform to social stereotypes. Have fun (although childish tantrums are not recommended).
Be truthful You don’t have to tell someone on the first date that it's too late for you to have children, or that you have been married and divorced five times. But mentioning – if asked – that you may want children at a later date, or are looking for a long-term relationship, should be stated up front. You don't want to give the wrong impression and store up trouble for down the line. ( telegraph.co.uk )
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