Top Ten Marriage Mistakes - We've noticed on the Marriage Forum that there is a pattern to the marital problems and issues that people share. Here's our list of the top ten things that you need to try and avoid in your own marriage.
1. Lack of Respect
Don't badmouth your spouse to your friends or associates. Spouses need to be thanked. They need to know they are appreciated.
2. Not Listening to Your Spouse
This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or television set, ignoring body language, and interrupting.
3. Lack of Sexual Intimacy
This is a death knell for a marriage. Seek medical counsel and therapeutic counseling if necessary. Don't leave your spouse wondering why you aren't interested in sex.
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4. Always Having to Be Right
This includes lecturing your mate, or having to have the last word. Very few people can love a know-it-all forever. Admit when you make a mistake or that you don't have all the answers. Don't answer every simple question with a long-winded dissertation on the topic.
5. Not Walking the Talk
Actions do speak louder than words. When you say you'll do something, do it. When you say you won't do something, follow through.
6. Hurtful Teasing
If your spouse says the teasing is hurtful, considers it a put down, or thinks that it is inappropriate, then stop it. Claiming that your spouse doesn't have a sense of humor or is too sensitive is being inconsiderate and unkind.
7. Dishonesty
Having lies and secrets in your relationship can create distance and lack of trust between the two of you.
8. Being Annoying
This includes continuing to have gross personal hygiene habits, or always being late, or nitpicking everything your spouse does, etc. It is when you know you are annoying and you continue to annoy. ( about.com )
1. Lack of Respect
Don't badmouth your spouse to your friends or associates. Spouses need to be thanked. They need to know they are appreciated.
2. Not Listening to Your Spouse
This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or television set, ignoring body language, and interrupting.
3. Lack of Sexual Intimacy
This is a death knell for a marriage. Seek medical counsel and therapeutic counseling if necessary. Don't leave your spouse wondering why you aren't interested in sex.
More Info
4. Always Having to Be Right
This includes lecturing your mate, or having to have the last word. Very few people can love a know-it-all forever. Admit when you make a mistake or that you don't have all the answers. Don't answer every simple question with a long-winded dissertation on the topic.
5. Not Walking the Talk
Actions do speak louder than words. When you say you'll do something, do it. When you say you won't do something, follow through.
6. Hurtful Teasing
If your spouse says the teasing is hurtful, considers it a put down, or thinks that it is inappropriate, then stop it. Claiming that your spouse doesn't have a sense of humor or is too sensitive is being inconsiderate and unkind.
7. Dishonesty
Having lies and secrets in your relationship can create distance and lack of trust between the two of you.
8. Being Annoying
This includes continuing to have gross personal hygiene habits, or always being late, or nitpicking everything your spouse does, etc. It is when you know you are annoying and you continue to annoy. ( about.com )
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